Tuesday, May 08, 2007

More Village Pictures


At the grave of Matt's great, great grandfather.














Cutting up the pig we had just carried all over the village. I was lucky enough to eat one of those ribs, which was actually pretty tasty. The feast consisted of the pig, hard boiled eggs, various cakes, sugar cane, and chrysanthimum drink or water. The cakes were my favorite. The feasting area, right by the graves, was strewn with trash from the previous feast. Evidently littering is not an issue. Rather than mess with tables, they simply layed plastic table cloths down on the ground and put the food right on top of them. We didn't use plates or even chopsticks. Instead, each person was given a wooden skewer and a plastic glove. Talk about efficient eating! And clean up was a cinch, because as mentioned before, you were expected to just throw your trash on the ground. The village boys are all gathered around their "table" enjoying the feast.




































Yuki and Larry. Larry is the son of Susan, who is Bills (Matt's grandpa) wife. Yuki is Larry's girlfriend. Both spoke English quite well and were very helpful.


Buddha picture from Hong Kong that got cut off when I posted the other blog.

Pictures from the Village

This is Mindy holding Danny & Grandpa Jerry holding Kaya on the train ride to Guangzhou. Though younger, Danny is bigger and also has a much bigger, louder cry, which he did decide to share with the fellow passengers on the train. They couldn't verbally share their opinion, but we did get a few glares. He finally fell asleep for most of the train ride.






This picture is meeting Matt's great aunt and uncle for the first time. They were at our hotel in Kaiping (a city about 35 minutes away from the village) awaiting our arrival. Matt was feeling quite tall much of the trip. Danny was on his best behavior whenever he met relatives. The other picture with great uncle and Danny was taken the next day. Despite the heat, Danny was in good spirits. Great Uncle kept giving me a thumbs up about Danny. I think he was happy to see such a chubby boy. Danny's hat is on in this pictures, but a few minutes later one of Jerry's cousins gave me a frown and took it off. She wiped off his sweaty head and then used the hat to fan him. I was trying to protect his face from the sun, but I guess she knew best.


In the house Jerry was born in. He lived here until he was about 3 years old. The house still belongs to Bill, Jerry's father and nobody else lives in it. The roasted pig and feast were all part of a ceremony to show respect to various gods and ancestors, including Jerry's deceased mother (whose brother we were visiting). The pig and feast and incense moved around depending who we were remembering. Each time every visiting family member would bow to the feast, then bow with money. After all had shown respect, the money was burned (it was fake money) as an offering. This house was very primitive with wood burning stoves and no running water. Great Uncle and the cousins homes were identical with just a few slight changes. Still a wood burning stove and thin curtains for doorways, but a TV. 2 brothers and their families under one roof, but everyone has cell phones. Interesting!



















Walking through the alleys in the village. All the women really liked Danny and made sure he had plenty of shade in the hot day. This is the wife of uncle's fourth son. Danny warmed right up to her and she held him much of the morning. She has one older son herself.




Outside the village showing our respect to the village god, who watches over the village. Everyone brought umbrellas to help battle the heat. It was probably 80-85 degrees, but 90-100% humidity. Matt and I felt right at home, but in Houston we rarely stay out in that heat more than 5 minutes.

Sunday, May 06, 2007

Hong Kong Pictures

Danny at our first hotel in Hong Kong. He thought it was fun to swing his arms against the rails and listen to the "pat,pat,pat" sound it made. No wonder he couldn't sleep in this crib. Obviously, he adjusted quickly to sleeping in the big bed. It turns out Danny is quite the bed hog! I'm glad we're not sharing every night.














The busy Hong Kong streets at night. It was way past Danny's bedtime (hence his pajamas) China time, but at 8 in the morning US time, he was ready to go. His "time to play" attitude lasted all night long. :) Matt's huge grin was after being reunited with Danny and Carrie after a week apart, but before Danny kept us up all night.

This is one of many different statues at Repulse Bay, a beach along the China Sea. This is where we rubbed the Buddha that is supposed to make you wealthy and also crossed the Bridge of Longevity to add 3 days to our life.















Kaya and Danny enjoying the ride back to the bus. Danny always seemed happy outside, but did not enjoy being stuck in the bus.








Matt and Danny at Avenue of the Stars with a statue of Bruce Lee. Notice how enthused Danny is about the event. :) This is also where we saw Jackie Chan's handprints and watched a laser light show on the Hong Kong skyline. Very cool!
Danny was quite sad he wasn't eating solids yet. Matt was very skilled at using the chopsticks and not dropping any rice on Danny's head. This was at our vegetarian lunch prepared by Buddhist monks. There must have been 50 different types of vegetables, mushrooms, and roots. Some dishes were tasty, some weren't, but it was a cool experience. It was a very foggy day, so even after climbing all the stairs, it was still difficult to see the giant Buddha at the top. We all had take take short breaks on the way up. Danny loved the whole thing!





Hong Kong Temple

Wednesday, May 02, 2007

Carrie's China Post

Sorry we were unable to post more throughout our trip. We have been so busy . . . this whole experience has been such a whirlwind.

Danny did quite well on the plane ride over. From Houston to San Fransisco he got a little fussy, but the businessmen on either side of me were kind and understanding. He and Kaya both did great on the long haul to Hong Kong. Danny fussed a little at times when he got too tired, but because it was such an empty flight, I was able to lay him down to sleep on two seats. By the 10th hour of the flight we had a pretty good system going. Kaya and Danny had fun sitting up and playing together in the big seats. The food on the flight was fine - two meals and a snack of instant noodles. We met up with Matt in customs in Hong Kong.

Our tour guide, Matthew, met us there and helped us get loaded into a small 15 seater bus. We headed to the hotel on the island of Kowloon. Hong Kong is several islands with the 3 main ones being Hong Kong, which is the business center, Lantau, which is less inhabited, but home to HK Disneyland, and Kowloon, where there is a lot of shopping, museum, theatres, and restaurants. Our hotel was decent, but a little old and run down. Its location couldn't have been better though - right in the center of everything. We were right by a MTR (subway) stop too, so we could get places quite easily.

After unloading and getting checked in, we wandered around and found a local cafe to eat at. It was humorous trying to communicate what we wanted. Though Jerry speaks Toisanese, the dialect he learned as a boy, it is different from Cantonese and most people in HK couldn't understand a word Jerry spoke. Matt, confident from his week in Shanghai, was able to order some food, which was pretty tasty.

Side note - I'm writing from the White Swan hotel in Guangzhou. Matt is at the market looking for gifts for coworkers. I stayed back to let Danny finish a much needed nap. Because this THE hotel for adoptions in China, they have really nice little cribs for the rooms.

So the first night in Hong Kong was AWFUL because Danny was so confused. Poor baby. It was worse than any night of his life. Matt and I were dead tired from the travel. Danny was too, but his body said it was playtime, so he woke up. And screamed when we tried to convince him it was still bedtime. We felt really bad for our neighbors. Nonetheless, we all survived (and much to our relief discovered one of our neighbors was the elevators) and headed out with our tour guide the next morning. We all woke up early so before actually leaving on the tour, Matt, Danny, & I wandered around by our hotel to find some breakfast - sweet breads from a bakery.

That day our tour guide took us all over - we walked on a beach and got our toes wet, rubbed a statue that makes you wealthy and a Buddha that makes you have babies, tossed a coin in a fish that makes you wealthy, saw the driveway to Jackie Chan's house, rode a boat through Aberdeen (a fisherman's wharf with a lot of houseboats), saw a jewelry factory, and rode to the top of Victoria Peak. Considering the night, Danny did OK. He was a real trooper, and while he did lose it a couple times when he was too tired, he did pretty good overall.

We had dimsum for a late lunch back at the hotel and then we all took 3 hour naps. It was after all bedtime in Danny's mind. That night the Matt Hong family had our own excursion. We bought MTR passes and rode to the waterfront on Kowloon. It was fun figuring out everything by ourselves without a tour guide. Almost everything in Hong Kong is in English, as well as Chinese though, so it wasn't too hard. We watched the nightly laser light show which is on the skyline of the Hong Kong side buildings. It was pretty cool, despite the foggy evening. Then we walked along the Avenue of Stars, where Jackie Chan and Bruce Lee both have handprints. Danny fell asleep in the stroller as we walked around. He had a much better night of sleep AND Matt prepared our room for the worst. He set up a late night play area (which did get use) and had the teething tablets and children's tylenol close at hand (which we did not need to use).

Monday we traveled to Lantau to see the Big Buddha. To get there we took a subway, two different ferries, and a bus. Danny didn't really enjoy being cooped up on the bus, but he loved the Buddha. After eating a Buddhist, vegetarian lunch, Matt bjorned Danny to carry him up the 100+ stairs. Danny thought it was great and smiled and laughed at every person we passed. He got a lot of attention for being so happy. We decided he really is a Buddha baby, not just because of his big belly. The day was really foggy, so even when you reached the huge Buddha, you could only see a silhouette of the top. It was cool nonetheless. The Buddha was on top of a high hill. Rather than ride the bus back down the windy roads, we took a cable car down. Because of the fog, the views were not as clear as we would have liked, but it was incredible nonetheless. Lantau was neat because the areas we were in were very lush with foliage and there were no high rises. The wilderness of Hong Kong is very beautiful and green.

After a short rest back at the hotel, Matt, Danny, & I ventured out to find the HK temple. After a few mistakes (which would have cost us big time in the Amazing Race) we eventually found it. It looks like an office building and is sandwiched among apartment buildings and office buildings. Nonetheless, the tiny courtyard had very peaceful, beautiful grounds. Across the street was a park and we let Danny swing for a while. He really enjoyed that! Then it was off to the Lady's Market to bargain for a few souvenirs. We didn't have much time, so we didn't do too much bargaining. Anyway, we decided it was a little ridiculous to argue too long over 5 Hong Kong dollars which is less than 1 US dollar.

We met up with the rest of the crew at a nice Cantonese restaurant. We had all kinds of tasty dishes. Danny fell asleep in the stroller. I almost fell asleep at the dinner table, so we took a taxi back to the hotel. We were all exhausted!

The next day we left early to catch a train to Guangzhou. What a funny looking crew climbing aboard the train with two babies and lots of luggage. Our next tour guide, Daniel, met us at the train station. I'm confident if we had stayed to go to Beijing we would have had a guide named Carrie. He took us to a big lunch and then we drove to Kaiping, a city near the village. Danny had a rough day today, with several breakdowns of screaming. We were regretting the decision to bring him since it was so tiring on the little guy to be out of familiar settings. But then when we got to the hotel (a very nice one), Matt's great aunt and uncle were waiting. He always cheered up for the relatives. It was priceless to see this little old Chinese man and woman, Danny's great, great aunt and uncle, pinching his cheeks and babbling to him in Chinese and trying to make him smile. Wow. That night we had a banquet in Toisan, the city closest to Jerry's village, with all of the relatives. It was Jerry's mom's brother and all of his children and their families. It was overwhelming with so much introducing and laughing and trying to communicate. Very loud and exciting and daunting. I was grateful for my previous experiences in China so I wasn't quite as surprised or revolted by the fancy dishes they had for the celebration - turtle soup, shrimp with the heads on, whole fish, whole chicken with the head on the plate. Danny, fortunately, missed much of the whole thing while he slept in his stroller. Fortunately because it meant he wasn't grumpy. He woke up just in time to be grumpy on the bus ride back. Tired boy. Again, we were second guessing ourselves about bringing him and just trying to make it through.

And then today. It was absolutely amazing. We drove to the actual village where Jerry was born. We were greeted enthusiastically by all the family. Danny was as good as can be after having a good night's rest and a good nap on the bus. Some of Jerry's cousins really loved him - he kept getting passed around from cousin to cousin. Danny smiled and giggled and laughed. We started in the house where Jerry was born. It was a completely different world - concrete floors, wood burning stoves, curtains for doorways, lofts for storage. Only the pictures will be able to describe it. They had a huge roasted pig. Incense was lit and they had a whole feast on the table next to the pig. First, we all showed our respect to the sky god. This was done by bowing at the feast, and then bowing again with money in your hand. After everyone had shown their respects, the $ (fake) is burned. So we all showed our respect to the sky god, then the ancestors, then Jerry's mom. After all the respect was shown, fireworks were lit outside the house to scare away the evil spirits.

Then the pig was carried outside the village and we showed our respect to the village god, then to one grave followed by the graves of great, great grandfather. It was extremely hot and humid, even for the Houstonites. The family members were so kind and friendly - giving us water and sharing umbrellas with us to help provide shade. One of Jerry's cousins was particularly fond of Danny and she carried him around the whole time. He was happy and smiley and giggly. When it was time to feed him, she ushered me into the one car that was there so I could stay cool and have privacy. Later, he fell asleep when we were eating the pig and she insisted on holding him so I could eat. When the group was heading back from the graves, she made me ride in the car since Danny was still asleep. And then when it was time to feed him again, she let me use a back room in her small home. Danny was an angel - such a good boy. And he made the whole experience more incredible. All the Chinese women giving me advice and babbling to him in their native tongue.

The entire experience was surreal - from watching great uncle (85 years old) ride on a small motorcycle up to the graves, to an 8 year old Chinese boy fanning Danny with a scrap piece of cardboard. From eating the cut up pig on pieces of plastic layed on the ground to bowing to the ancestors to receiving lucky red packets of money from people whose income is less than $2000 a year. It was incredible and despite the great challenges of having a six month old baby traveling with us in China, it was all worth the experience. I hope that tomorrow when Danny is screaming on the plane and there is still 8 hours left on the flight that I can remember our experiences today.

Update From Guangzhou

My blog posts became less frequent as things here in China became busier.

The rest of the time in Shanghai was wonderful. The city is amazing! It is growing so quickly. I will try to blog some of the highlights later.

Hong Kong was also great, although Danny was not always pleasant to be around since his schedule was so mixed up. The first night he woke up MANY times, ready to play since his day and night were all mixed up.

The visit to the village was one of the most surreal experiences of my life. To see where my father was born and to meet relatives that live such a different life than my own is an experience I will always treasure and which I am sure I will ponder about for a long time.

We took many photos which I will publish as soon as possible.